“Demand” doesn’t work

We get trained as kids to make demands, because it’s what our parents do with us … if we don’t do as we’re told, they demand that we do, using all sorts of “power over” techniques. And so that’s what we learn to do as well. If someone else isn’t doing what we what, or

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“False” needs?

My sister Tracy Baker-Lawrence is an Enneagram expert. The Enneagram can be categorized as a personality typing tool, but it’s much deeper than that. It tells us what our core “mistaken thought” is, and how that drives everything we do. Tracy and I have often talked about how it seems that each personality “type” (there

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According to positive psychology research, the practice that most contributes to our well-being is daily gratitude. And what is gratitude? Gratitude is, simply, noticing that our needs have been met We constantly have needs being met without even noticing it. How often do you take the time to actually notice and appreciate the air that

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