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		By: Deanne Bednar		</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[I&#039;d rather send this to a private email than be posted.  
I responded to one part - and hope that it is helpful. I so appreciate that you are doing this and also asking for feedback.  I feel a little sad that I am responding to just one part.  I haven&#039;t looked at the whole site.  

Feedback requested re this evolving description of nvc.  

  Needs: Feelings are caused by needs, which are universal and ongoing and not dependent on the actions of particular individuals. State your need rather than the other person’s actions as the cause. For example, “I feel annoyed because I need support” rather than “I feel annoyed because you didn’t do the dishes.” 

I am so appreciating what you are doing to outline and explain nvc. 
Here is a response to the example above.  
I imagine these sentences said in a different way.  
We can avoid &quot;x causes our feelings&quot; (feelings are &quot;caused&quot; by our needs) by saying that we often have feelings as responses to our needs being met (happy feelings) or not met (unhappy feelings) .  
&quot;not dependent on the actions of particular individuals.&quot; that part seems fine to me.  
&quot;State your need rather than the other person’s actions as the cause. For example, “I feel annoyed because I need support” rather than “I feel annoyed because you didn’t do the dishes.” &quot;
I might soften it to 
&quot; We can share what we are needing (tone is important here).  And if we first empathize with what they might be feeling and needing...(When the dishes weren&#039;t done, and we have an agreement to share that role, I&#039;m guessing you have some other things on your mind, or might want to relax for a while after dinner?&quot;  .if we empathize with them FIRST, they might appreciate that they matter, and that you are thinking about them...and be more open to hearing what we are feeling and needing.  

All of this is taking a lot more words, and I think you want to keep it really clear and simple.  

Thanks for all your effort and creativity in bringing NVC to others and asking for feedback. 
You can post this or not, as you choose. 
Warmly, Deanne]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;d rather send this to a private email than be posted.<br />
I responded to one part &#8211; and hope that it is helpful. I so appreciate that you are doing this and also asking for feedback.  I feel a little sad that I am responding to just one part.  I haven&#8217;t looked at the whole site.  </p>
<p>Feedback requested re this evolving description of nvc.  </p>
<p>  Needs: Feelings are caused by needs, which are universal and ongoing and not dependent on the actions of particular individuals. State your need rather than the other person’s actions as the cause. For example, “I feel annoyed because I need support” rather than “I feel annoyed because you didn’t do the dishes.” </p>
<p>I am so appreciating what you are doing to outline and explain nvc.<br />
Here is a response to the example above. <br />
I imagine these sentences said in a different way. <br />
We can avoid &#8220;x causes our feelings&#8221; (feelings are &#8220;caused&#8221; by our needs) by saying that we often have feelings as responses to our needs being met (happy feelings) or not met (unhappy feelings) . <br />
&#8220;not dependent on the actions of particular individuals.&#8221; that part seems fine to me. <br />
&#8220;State your need rather than the other person’s actions as the cause. For example, “I feel annoyed because I need support” rather than “I feel annoyed because you didn’t do the dishes.” &#8221;<br />
I might soften it to<br />
&#8221; We can share what we are needing (tone is important here).  And if we first empathize with what they might be feeling and needing&#8230;(When the dishes weren&#8217;t done, and we have an agreement to share that role, I&#8217;m guessing you have some other things on your mind, or might want to relax for a while after dinner?&#8221;  .if we empathize with them FIRST, they might appreciate that they matter, and that you are thinking about them&#8230;and be more open to hearing what we are feeling and needing.  </p>
<p>All of this is taking a lot more words, and I think you want to keep it really clear and simple.  </p>
<p>Thanks for all your effort and creativity in bringing NVC to others and asking for feedback.<br />
You can post this or not, as you choose.<br />
Warmly, Deanne</p>
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