– are you trying to connect, or to fix? (let go of the outcome). Intention is ALWAYS to connect. (Don’t panic, the “fix” will be clear to you once you have really connected.) – are you focusing on how it feels to have the need met, or the fact that it’s not being met? (just […]
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If you’re struggling with putting NVC into practice, you’re not alone. We’ve had 10,000 years of the domination paradigm, which has taught us these not-useful ways of commuicating. On top of that, our brains aren’t good at thinking clearly when we’re triggered (ie when we most need NVC!) I think most people come to NVC hoping
The following are the ways we’ve all been taught to communicate, and they just don’t work. It’s so frustrating – you think you’re trying to help, and it’s just not working. Most of the following fall into two general categories: • Listening through thick filters, such as fixing, criticizing, rebutting, being right • Making it
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